Deepening intimacy exercise.

How do you want to touch me for your pleasure?

Can I show you how I would like to touch you for my pleasure?

Can you please touch me like this?

These are examples of curious and expansive questions that can be asked between friends or lovers.

What makes them so great is that the touch doesn’t have to be anything in particular, it can be sexual or non sexual, and nor have a goal in mind.

You can ask these questions just because it’s great to learn about what we do and don’t like or to learn to use your voice more when it comes to intimacy and self expression of needs and desires.

Asking more questions like this, you could strengthen your ability to say no or even get to know someone a lot better.

How better to experiment with that, than to experience it with someone we trust or are close to. Someone with whom we can feel safe to speak up and say, “slower please”, “a little harder”, or “more like this” or “is this feeling close to what you had in mind?” etc.

Intimacy in any kind of relationship is a lot about getting to know the self and being able to clearly communicate needs and desires. To be able to deeply listen and reflect back what you’re hearing which builds trust and safety.

Try this with your loved ones, take turns, set a timer, explore, laugh, play, enjoy… let me know how you go.

Hayley